Hawaii is unique. The old world still overlaps with the new, and old traditions hang in the ethers as an unseen but underlying energy that we can tap into for wisdom and healing.
Ho’oponopono is one of those things. It is an ancient practice that has had a reemergence (and upgrade) in recent years.
How to pronounce Ho’oponopono
You sound out every vowel literally, so “Ho’o” would pronounce like “ho ho ho” but just one “ho” and an additional “o” at the end, followed by two “pono’s”, each sounding like “mono”.
It translates simply as “correction” and is the art of forgiveness and reconciliation. This art of forgiveness and reconciliation was used traditionally across the islands to heal family issues, energetic and health problems and all grievances.
It consisted of counseling and prayer.
The foundation was that of taking responsibility.
Taking responsibility gives you back your power, even when someone has wronged you. Yes, even when someone has wronged you.
Over the years, there has been a “modernization” of the practice that has begun to include a mantra as well.
The mantra is:
I love you
Please forgive me
Repeating this mantra has several wonderful effects –
- it calms you down
- clears a lot of energetic blocks between you and the other
When there is an energetic “locldown” our own energy and that of others can swirl, if not calmed and cleared, and can keep you up, feeling anxious and stressed out. That’s why doing this practice is so important and effective.
Why the practice is effective
Ho’oponopono shifts the responsibility of love to us.
No matter what the other did, we are responsible for our own level of trust and love. We are responsible for taking care of our insides.
And our insides want to thrive with love, not hate, not fear, not concern.
This practice does that.
Furthermore, it allows us to be responsible. And responsibility equals power.
When we’re responsible, we can claim back our strength, because we are the root of our own experience. We are the cause in the world we are in. We are the source of our joy and our suffering.
If someone has wronged us, it is because we have allowed it, in one way or another. Even when it feels awful and terribly unfair. Believe me, I know this feeling. I know the feeling of boiling over with rage. I know what it’s like to raise my hands to the sky and yell “WHY?!”
My mentor once told me “Who cares why? If it’s happening, it’s ‘right’. Because it’s happening. So go do your best with what’s happening.”
And in the words of Pebbie from Frozen II, (I have kids, so I get to see allll the kid movies): “When one can see no future, all one can do is the next right thing.“
The next right thing is always being responsible.
Be responsible, say you’re sorry, say I love you, say thank you. And you will feel and see a difference in your life. Promise.